文中的原則都是通用的，咱們老爺們兒追妞兒時估計或多或少都明白其中道理，也都在不自覺的用。本文的意義就是強化一下這些基本原則，為廣大老爺們兒造福。希望您看了本文能免去許多的多愁善感，并且鼓起勇氣，腳踏實地的行動~

    Every girl is different--if they were all alike, you wouldn't be interested in this one in particular, now would you? There are as many different ways to get a girl as there are girls, so let's go over some basic rules that'll win over any girl worth getting.

    Steps

    1. Have your own life.If you tend to fall into the "friend zone", this is especially important. Girls don't like guys who have no lives, and who cling to them like plastic wrap. Actually, some girls do like that, but usually for all the wrong reasons--either they're insecure and needy for attention, or they're control freaks who like to dominate guys. Unless you want to sign up for either of those scenarios, focus filling your time with your own friendships, interests, and goals.

    2. Make an impression.There's no one-size-fits-all solution here. What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself. Demonstrate a unique skill or talent that you're proud of, something that sets you apart from the crowd. Not only will this make her feel good about you, but it can boost your confidence, too.

    3. Flirt.When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact. Smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or you've got something stuck to your teeth. Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours. Live in the moment.

    4. Talk to her.Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what you want to leap out of bed to pursue. Ask her what she really loves in life and what gets her excited. Be positive. If you have had a bad day, still greet them with pleasure and a big smile. Most importantly, listen.

    5. Be romantic.

    The stereotypical icons of romance (roses, candles and chocolate) can only go so far. Think about what really gets that special someone excited. Recognize what makes her unique, and find/do things for them that only they would appreciate. What are her quirky (perhaps secret) interests, obsessions and fantasies? Whenever she's shopping, talking, or watching a movie, what makes her eyes light up? Pay attention! Being romantic means acknowledging how special a person is, and that means demonstrating that you know--better than anyone else in the world--what makes her unique.

    6. Break the touch barrier.

    There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your elbow so she can link arms with you as you walk together. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. Rub her hands when they're cold. These are all polite ways to get a little closer without being creepy. Still, if you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.

    7. Compliment her.

    If you really like this girl, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt), make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she's shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other girls have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original. Better yet, compliment her personality or skills.

    8. Make her laugh.

    Telling jokes or funny stories is the classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that'll make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it's not dangerous or illegal, of course).

    9. Ask her out.

    Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you--make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and preferably, where you have or do something that you're proud of. Or, express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. Or, just go out for lunch or a cup of coffee and get to know her better.

    每個女孩都不一樣，要是他們都一樣的話，你肯定沒理由就只對這個感興趣，你說是吧。世上有多少妞兒，咱就有多少讓她們喜歡咱的招兒。我們先來縷一縷一些基本思路，然后你就能戰(zhàn)無不勝，想泡誰泡誰了~

    步驟

    1、好好過自己的日子。

    這一步對“只想和她做朋友”的同胞們尤其重要。姑娘們不喜歡沒生活的男生，更不喜歡像塑料包裝一樣黏糊著她們的家伙。雖說現實中有喜歡男生黏糊自己的女孩兒，但她們喜歡的理由都不太正常：要么就是她沒安全感，需要別人的注意；要么就是控制狂，總想操縱咱老爺們。除非你想學周瑜打黃蓋，她愿打你愿挨，否則你最好投入更多精力去搞好自己的友誼、興趣和人生理想。

    2、走自己的路，留給她印象。

    這步沒有通法。也許你做的讓這個女孩回味的事情會讓另一個反胃。要賭就賭上真的自己。給她瞧瞧你的絕活，或者你引以為豪的什么卓爾不群的才華。這可不只會叫她對你印象良好，你也會因此信心倍增。

    3、巧妙地調情。

    遇著你喜歡的女孩時，蜻蜓點水一般和她來短暫的眼神接觸。保持微笑。主動造一個輕松隨便的對話。對了，最重要一點是保持別緊張。別把她當成你的夢中女神；別去想講了笑話講冷了會怎樣；哪怕牙縫里賽東東了也不要緊。重要的是享受和她，這個與你生命相交而又魅力非凡的她，你來我往兩相交流的過程。想太多沒用，活在當下才是王道。

    4、對話。

    告訴她你生命的熱情所在，也叫她告訴你她的。展示給她你積極的人生態(tài)度。即便你倒了一天霉，也要微笑豁達著面對。記住，認真地傾聽她說的話。

    5、要浪漫。

    浪漫的代表性事物都老套無比，它們（玫瑰啊、燭光啊、巧克力什么的）不會幫你在玩浪漫的路上走得更遠。好好想想怎么才能真正點燃你的她。你得學會發(fā)現使她之為她的事物，為她找出只有她欣賞的東西。什么是她特別的（或者秘密的）情趣；什么使她著魔，什么日復一日在她白日夢里出現；在她購物聊天看電影時，什么東西叫她雙眼閃著興奮的光？你得注意這些！浪漫，浪漫就是承認一個人是特別的。浪漫意味著你懂她，比世上的別人都懂，懂她與眾不同，懂她之所以是她。

    6、碰碰她，別害怕。

    我們有很多法子能叫咱正大光明毫不猥瑣的碰一個女孩。她穿衣服時，為她擎著外套；在她走顛簸路時，伸出你紳士的手；一起走時，為她留一個臂彎，這樣她才好挽著你。還有，還有，你能勇敢的牽著她在人群中開路，你能冷天幫她搓手。這些都能讓你倆走得更近，卻不會惹她生厭。當然了，她要是太扭捏不情愿，你還是住手為妙。如果她表現ok，她可能正得意著你的恭維。

    7、表揚她。

    你若真喜歡她，你十有八九喜歡她的許多地方，為什么不叫她知道呢？如果她有了小小的變化或新鮮之處（發(fā)型啦，指甲油啦，襯衫啦），你得夸一夸。你的贊美越獨特，效果越好。除非她很膚淺，大部分女孩子都喜歡那些讓他們覺著自己與眾不同的贊美，而不是什么一堆一堆的女孩兒都有的特點。如果你想表揚她的外表，盡量原創(chuàng)。如果你會贊揚她的性格或者才能就更好了~

    8、逗她開心叫她笑

    講笑話或者趣聞軼事無疑是經典的逗樂方法，不過絕不是只有這些辦法。找出她最喜歡的喜劇，搞笑電影或者肥皂劇，陪她看。要勇敢點，想個滑稽的動作逗她開心。讓她準你做些傻事，然后當真去做（當然啦，既不能危險也不能違法~）。

    9、約她出來

    約她一起去什么地方，或者約她和你一起做些事——確保你倆對此都有興趣。如果你想的話，向她展示你的世界。帶她去個你覺著舒服并且愛去的地方，講給她在那里你曾做過或者還在經常做的你引以為豪的事�；蛘撸�你讓她知道你對她的世界感興趣。比方說她是個音樂家，那么你可以問她許不許你去看她的演出。如果她是搞數學的，向她要她的研究報告和理論讀讀�；蛘�，簡單的，你只需要請她吃個晚餐喝杯咖啡什么的，這樣你也能了解她多一點。