As the housing market and economy continue to flounder, families are turning to an option that was out of vogue during the McMansion age: having siblings share rooms.
Globally, and historically, private bedrooms for siblings have been the exception, rather than the rule. Most children around the world share bedrooms with their siblings, and sometimes with their parents. But in the U.S., houses have grown larger in recent years, while family sizes have remained roughly steady at around 2 kids. In 1991, the average American home had 1,672 square feet and 53 percent had three or more bedrooms, according to the Washington Post, citing Census data. By 2007, it had grown to 1,789 square feet, and more than 60 percent had three or more bedrooms.
But the trend toward each child having their own domain may be changing due to economic constraints. Growing families are getting priced out bigger homes, or are having trouble selling their existing places, so they're making do. In Manhattan, for instance, more families are cramming into one-bedroom apartments. From 2000 to 2006, there was a 31% jump in the number of white families and a 19% increase in African-American families with one or more children under the age of 6 living in one-bedroom apartments, reports the New York Times, using an analysis of Manhattan census data.
When considering whether to have siblings share rooms, space constraints and finances play a major role. But it's also important to consider the sibling's ages, temperaments, genders and privacy concerns, child development experts say. If you have an infant who gets up frequently through the night and a 4-year-old who's a light sleeper, having them share rooms might lead to some pretty tired, cranky kids and parents. And while having boys and girls share rooms might be fine when they're toddlers, it might turn awkward when they get older and start to have different interests (like a 'princess phase' and a truck obsession) and when they become more aware of their different bodies.
Growing up, my siblings and I had our own rooms. I've always been a very independent person who values my privacy and solitude and I've usually felt uncomfortable sharing space with roommates. (Moving in with my now-husband was a big learning curve.) Perhaps those traits are a result of my upbringing in my own room.
But my son will most likely share a room, at least as a toddler, with his future siblings, because it will be tough for my family to afford a bigger house. I also like the idea of my kids sharing a room-I hope it will teach them cooperation and sharing. (Here are some tips for decorating and maximizing space for shared rooms.)
Readers, what experiences have you had, either as a parent or child, with siblings sharing rooms? Has the economy had any effect on whether your kids will share rooms?
隨著住房市場(chǎng)和整體經(jīng)濟(jì)繼續(xù)萎靡,一些家庭開(kāi)始轉(zhuǎn)向之前在豪宅時(shí)代已經(jīng)過(guò)時(shí)的一種選擇:讓子女共用房間。
無(wú)論是在全球范圍內(nèi),還是從歷史上看,孩子擁有單獨(dú)臥室的情況都不多見(jiàn),并非普遍規(guī)律。世界上大多數(shù)孩子都是跟兄弟姊妹共用臥室,有時(shí)是跟自己的父母。但在美國(guó),這些年來(lái)房子越造越大,而每個(gè)家庭的子女?dāng)?shù)量仍穩(wěn)定在2個(gè)左右。據(jù)《華盛頓郵報(bào)》援引統(tǒng)計(jì)數(shù)字說(shuō),1991年,美國(guó)家庭住宅平均面積是1,672 平方英尺,有53%的家庭擁有三間或三間以上臥室。到2007年,平均面積上升到1,789平方英尺,臥室不少于三間的家庭比例達(dá)到60%.
但是,由于經(jīng)濟(jì)形勢(shì)窘迫,這種讓每個(gè)孩子擁有自己領(lǐng)地的潮流或許將發(fā)生改變。因?yàn)榇蠓孔觾r(jià)錢(qián)過(guò)高不敢問(wèn)津,或者原有住房難以出手,越來(lái)越多的家庭只好將就。比如在曼哈頓,全家擠進(jìn)只有一間臥室的公寓的家庭增多了!都~約時(shí)報(bào)》根據(jù)對(duì)曼哈頓地區(qū)統(tǒng)計(jì)數(shù)字的分析說(shuō),2000-2006年間,有一個(gè)以上6歲以下子女、全家住在單臥室公寓的家庭數(shù)在增加,其中,此類(lèi)白人家庭的增幅是31%,非洲裔美國(guó)家庭的增幅是19%.
在考慮是否讓子女共用臥室時(shí),空間限制和財(cái)力狀況是主要因素。但是兒童發(fā)育專(zhuān)家說(shuō),考慮子女的年齡、脾氣、性別和隱私也很重要。如果你有一個(gè)夜里經(jīng)?摁[的小嬰兒,還有一個(gè)睡覺(jué)很輕的4歲孩子,那么,讓他們共處一室可能會(huì)讓孩子和父母都非常疲乏和暴躁。還有,在孩子都還在學(xué)步的年齡時(shí),讓男孩和女孩住在一起或許沒(méi)什么問(wèn)題,但當(dāng)他們逐漸長(zhǎng)大、開(kāi)始有不同的興趣(比如女孩處于"公主時(shí)期",而男孩卻癡迷于卡車(chē)),以及開(kāi)始察覺(jué)到他們身體的差異時(shí),再讓他們用一個(gè)臥室就會(huì)變得尷尬了。
我和我的姊妹小時(shí)候都有自己的臥室。我一直是個(gè)非常獨(dú)立的人,很看重自己的隱私和獨(dú)處的機(jī)會(huì),而且,跟室友共用房間的時(shí)候我總是感到很不自在。(跟我現(xiàn)在的丈夫搬到一起讓我花了很長(zhǎng)時(shí)間才適應(yīng)。)或許,這些特性是我成長(zhǎng)過(guò)程中擁有自己?jiǎn)为?dú)房間的結(jié)果。
但是,我兒子將來(lái)很可能得跟他弟弟或者妹妹共用房間,至少在他學(xué)會(huì)走路之前,因?yàn)槲覀兗乙?fù)擔(dān)比現(xiàn)在大的房子會(huì)很困難。其實(shí)我也喜歡讓孩子共用房間的想法,我希望,這能讓他們學(xué)會(huì)合作和分享。
讀者諸君,不論是作為父母還是作為子女,你在共用房間方面有什么經(jīng)歷?眼下的經(jīng)濟(jì)形勢(shì)對(duì)你決定是否讓孩子們共用房間有什么影響嗎?