You're single -- a heat-seeking bachelor, committed to no one in particular, able to party like John Belushi and sleep until noon with no one underfoot to tell you to do otherwise. It's a great life, and why shouldn't it be?
These days, there's no real social pressure to get married right out of high school or college, you can easily get laid without saying "I do," and most people are waiting until much later in life to tie the knot, anyway.
Still, that nagging question keeps popping into your head: Should I settle down? Should I ransom my freedom? Should I embark on the great search for my soul mate and willingly kiss my single days goodbye forever?
While only you can answer this question, here are a few reasons for staying single (at least for the time being).
1- You can take the time to find the right woman
One of our reasons for staying single is that you can afford to wait for your true soul mate (if one even exists) to pop into the picture. You can take the time to casually wade through the barracuda-infested waters of the dating pool and set your hook for the prize catch.
In other words, by holding out for Miss Right (instead of Miss Always Right), you can avoid the mistake of a lifetime and marry for love -- and not out of desperation.
It's sad to say, but too many guys get hitched for the wrong reasons, like they've reached a certain age, all of their friends are getting married, and they haven't been successful at dating and this woman is the first to show interest.
This reason for staying single allows you to take your time playing the dating game, and increase your odds of beating the divorce statistics.
2- You can focus on your career
Our No. 2 reason for staying single is that you can enjoy the opportunity of building your career without draining the tons of energy a permanent relationship entails. You remain free to put in long hours, work on the weekends or do whatever else you have to do to be successful. This is especially true if you're working in any kind of time-demanding field, such as medicine, law or entrepreneurship.
The upside is, once your business hits the big time and you're cranking mucho dinero , you'll have hordes of women throwing themselves at you. That being said, you probably still won't even have time to think about marriage.
3- You can do what you want, when you want
When you're single, the world is your oyster. You can pick up and go anywhere you want, do anything you want, any time you want. No one is in the background nagging at you to do chores, go shopping, or "grow up."
You're absolutely free to hang out with your buddies, party until dawn and find plenty of time for your personal interests and hobbies. Best of all, you have the luxury of being all by yourself, if you feel like it.
Having sex with different women, making mad money and other reasons for staying single.
4- You can enjoy a sexual smorgasbord
One of the best reasons for staying single is that you're not stuck with the same sex partner for the rest of your life. The dating universe is yours to conquer. You can happily sample all the different fare at the sexual buffet, and keep your taste buds primed for the next dish being served.
What's more, you never have to wrestle with sexual boredom or lack of variety (and you'll be the envy of all your married friends).
5- You can build wealth
Staying single means not being forced into buying a 10,000-megawatt diamond ring (so your fiance can impress her friends with the huge price tag) or any of the other bloodsucking financial drains that marriage entails, for that matter.
And you won't be stuck having to regularly shell out for the flowers, more jewelry and the other gifts that a wife demands (it's like paying maintenance fees on a condo).
By staying single, you're not legally or financially obligated to anyone but yourself. But once you John Hancock the dotted line on that marriage contract, she has you by the balls forever.
You can take this money (that somehow spontaneously becomes "hers" once you get married) and invest it in important things like sex-drenched singles' cruises, buying cool cars or building equity in a house.
6- You can enjoy serenity
Another reason for staying single is that being alone means peace and quiet. When you don't live with a woman, you're not subjected to her never-ending mood swings and emotional storms, or her blaming you for everything that she screws up in her life.
And, of course, no fights. As long as you keep her as a casual girlfriend and not a wife, if she gets too uppity you can simply walk away, free and clear.
7- You can keep your toys
When you're single, you can hang on to all your fun toys -- that classic Mustang, the speedboat, the Harley -- all of which seem to magically disappear overnight once you get married.
Your wife won't want you to have these things because they take the focus off her and she feels it's her money that she could be better spending on clothes and shoes.
8- You don't have to compromise
Being single means you don't have to constantly find a "middle ground" -- meaning, doing what she wants to do (whether you like it or not). This includes being forced to see chick flicks or suffer antique fairs and dinner with her friends. And you'd better toe the line buddy, or you'll have hell to pay and no more sex for you.
你是一個單身漢,狂熱追求獨(dú)身,無可指責(zé)。你可以像John Belushi 那樣去參加聚會也可以在無人在你跟前告訴你該做別的事情的情況下一直睡到下午。多么美好的生活啊,不是嗎?
如今,沒有什么真正的社會壓力迫使你走出校門之后就必須結(jié)婚.你沒有必要聲明什么就可以保持獨(dú)身,而且現(xiàn)在許多人都是很晚才走入婚姻。
直到那些煩人的問題開始讓你自己感到頭脹:我是不是應(yīng)該安定下來了?我是不是應(yīng)該贖回我的自由?我是不是應(yīng)該開始尋找我的精神伴侶然后向單身時光永遠(yuǎn)的說聲再見?
在只有你自己可以回答這些問題的同時,這里還有一些可以單身的理由(時下流行的):
1 你可以用這段時間找出你真正適意的女人。
一個單身的理由是你能夠有足夠的時間來等待你生命中的真命天子闖入你的視野。你可以在這段時間盡情的在美人池里搜尋并捕獲到你最中意的戰(zhàn)利品。
換句話說,通過等待和尋找真命天子,你可以避免人生中的一些錯誤遠(yuǎn)離離婚并且真正為愛結(jié)婚。
很遺憾的說,太多的人因?yàn)橐恍┎划?dāng)?shù)脑蜃呷肓嘶橐,比如他們到了一定的年齡,周圍的朋友都結(jié)了婚,然后他們也和自己第一次感興趣的女人有了一次不成功的婚姻。
這個單身的理由可以允許你在時間游戲中慢慢來,并且可以增加你戰(zhàn)勝離婚的幾率。
2 你可以致力于事業(yè)
我們第二個保持獨(dú)身的理由是你可以盡情的享用構(gòu)建你職業(yè)生涯的任何一個機(jī)會,在沒有固定的家庭關(guān)系可以發(fā)呢三你的精力的情況下。你就有空長時間的,在周末工作或者做任何可以成功完成的事情。這是十分準(zhǔn)確的如果你從事要在任何時間都可能工作的領(lǐng)域,像醫(yī)藥,法律或者企業(yè)家。
上述情況就是,一旦你的事業(yè)遇到好的時刻和機(jī)遇你就會可以操縱很多錢,你就會遇到一大群投懷送抱的女人。這意味著你仍然沒有機(jī)會來考慮婚姻。
3 你可以隨心所欲
當(dāng)你單身的時候,整個世界都是你的地盤。你可以隨時打點(diǎn)行裝去任何一個你想去的地方,干任何一件你想干的事情。沒有任何人可以在你的背后對你喋喋不休的讓你去做一些瑣事,購物,或者“做大事”.
你可以完全自由的和你的狐朋狗友在一起,聚會到天亮,或者為你個人的興趣和愛好提供足夠豐富的時間。最好的,是你可以擁有一些奢侈品,只要你喜歡。
和不同的女人關(guān)系曖昧,正大量的錢還有其他的理由保持單身。
4 享受性自由
保持單身的其中一個最好的理由是你不必在你的余生里只局限于一個固定的性伴侶。世界上的所有的異性都可以成為你的征服對象。你可以嘗試不同味道的異性,讓你時刻感到新鮮感。
更多的是你不會感到性厭倦或者乏味。(你會讓你多有結(jié)婚的朋友感到嫉妒。)
5 你可以積累財富
獨(dú)身意味著你不必去買一個1萬兆瓦的鉆戒或者其他的能讓人榨干血汗的結(jié)婚附屬之類的物品。
你也不會陷于按時送花,珠寶或者滿足妻子其他要求的麻煩之中(這就像是定期的支付維修費(fèi))。
單身,你就不會對除了你自己之外的人承擔(dān)任何的法律或者財政義務(wù)。但是一旦你在結(jié)婚條文上簽了字,他就會使你的生活變得一團(tuán)糟。
你可以將這部分錢(一旦結(jié)婚就會成為對方財產(chǎn))投資一輛游艇,買一部型車或者投資房產(chǎn)。
6 你可以享受寧靜
單身的另一個原因就是獨(dú)身就意味著和平和安靜。當(dāng)你不和女人相處時,你就不會受到她永無休止的情緒變化和神經(jīng)質(zhì),或者是對你的責(zé)備。
當(dāng)然,也不會打架。只要你始終把她作為一個女朋友而不是妻子。如果她變得傲慢和不可理喻,之完全可以簡單的走開。
7 你可以自娛自樂
單身的時候你可以展示你所有的愛好和玩具---古典野馬模型,高速游艇,所有這些,一旦你結(jié)了婚,就會在一夜之間魔術(shù)般的消失。
你的妻子不會讓你擁有這些東西,因?yàn)檫@會降低你對他的關(guān)注,而且她認(rèn)為他應(yīng)該把這部分錢用來購置衣物和鞋子。
8 你不必折中和妥協(xié)
單身意味著你不必時常去尋找一個中間地帶----就是說,她想做而你不一定喜歡的事情。這包括被迫去看一些幼稚的和古典的電影或者陪她的朋友吃飯。你最好小心翼翼的對待這些朋友,否則你會自食其果。